How to get my 12 y/old son interested in reading & school rather than playing online & video games?
frustrated Mom asked:
He loves to play PS2 games, online games such as Runescape & Tankmania. Recently he found Club Penquin which is a site for the younger kids. He struggled in school this past year because he would lie to me about his Homework being done so he could play his games. He is a bright young man. He has difficulty staying on task because of his ADHD, which he take medication for that sometimes causes him to be a bit tense. He tends to be explosive when he doesn’t get his way. He will let others do his work for him if he can.
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10 Responses to “How to get my 12 y/old son interested in reading & school rather than playing online & video games?”
You may have to show some tough love and take these things away for a while. Let him have his tantrum and don’t give in.
Consider taking him to parks and places he’s going to enjoy that don’t have games. You can take away his games, yes, he’ll be mad –I wouldn’t expect less.
If you feel like you have no control, which is what seems to be the case, try counseling. A really excellent book is called “How to Talk So Kids Will LIsten and LIsten So Kids Will Talk” It’s a great parenting resource.
Put limits on his activities. Give him time to do what he likes but have a more structured schedule for him to follow with homework and study.
Or get him a tutor since he has been struggling in school.
I also have a child thats AHDH but fortunately I never had to use tablets just patience and a lot of support from family, and a lot of prayers.
I learnt the best way to deal with mine is to turn every thing off T.V.’S, Games and etc.. And Yes She screams and throws things around and tells me she hates me etc After all she’s 12. But I stand my ground and wait till she’s cooled down then I go and talk to her and spend some time with her which has helped my situation. I know everyones is different so I wont say that it’ll work for everyone.
I know its hard becoz I have a Son whos 10 and had to miss a lot of attention from me due to my daughter but thankfully he can be understandable at times.
I set ground rules and yeah they brake them and then I punnish them by turning t.v. and etc off on them.
My sugestion would be stand your ground and set rules then if he brakes them punnish him by taking everytthing away from him and keep at it till you can see the difference.
take the game and computer away till school work is done no A’s no game or b or c depending how smart you think he can be
Wilehimina is right …tough love…take away priveledges until they earn time and good grades, then in small doses, give back time for games. At our house it was a battle at first, then the routine of all chores and homework done first; only then came time for computer games or whatever. Be the parent first, and remember the kids need the boundaries. And the kids that live here at our house only get it on the weekend! Everyone is cool with it now..it is accepted as routine. They’ll still love you…JCL
Mo betta’ you work WITH him on the homework, if possible.
I’m a 22 yr old youth worker, i usually deal with young people with challenging behaviours… let me tell you what your son is doing is normal, whatever normal is. you need to take luxuries away from him but also let him have his play time. most importantly you have to be aware of how you do this. you should build a rapport with your son before setting boundaries, a rapport also builds trust, with trust there is respect with respect there is discipline. he also needs to learn that there are consequences to his actions in order to see the importance of why he should focus a little more on his studies. also understand that there is probably a lot more about your son that you haven’t yet learnt. best of luck and i hope i helped some.
thats gonna be very hard! sorry
Limit his use of those items until he accepts and reads more. As a parent that is part of his learning by using disicpline, if not he’ll more then likely be lucky enough just to be able to read comic books and nothing else for the rest of his life. If he bulks on what you are trying to help him with, go to stronger discipline methods and inforce them. Kids are spoiled today because of all these modern day gadgets that are given to them and parents just don’t realize how bad they affect the children to obtain a good education.